Resilience is the ability of people to cope with stressful traumatic events without undue adverse effects. This concept serves to explain how similar people react differently to the same type of trauma. The interindividual variability is very high. People with high resilience manage to face adversity, reorganizing themselves internally and reaching new important goals. They tend to be flexible, dynamic and creative people, and they treasure past experiences.
Resilience is a term that derives from the science of materials to indicate the ability to conserve its structure after being deformed.
According to psychologist Suzanne Kobasa, 3 personality factors are attributable to a high degree of resilience.
- Commitment – degree of involvement in activities, typical of non-passive or anxious people, able to realistically assess the difficulties.
- Control – the conviction of being able to dominate events, a concept similar to the locus of control. Who has a high degree of control is ready to change himself and his actions for a better strategy.
- Taste for challenges – acceptance of changes as positive change factors. Difficulties are not avoided or considered dangerous, but rather are experienced as growth opportunities.
Resilience how to develop it
Resilience consists of a set of behaviors and attitudes, which if they are not possessed from birth can be developed.
- Establish good relationships with the closest family members, accepting support in difficult situations
- Change your point of view and see opportunities for change in the crisis
- Accept change as part of life
- Develop realistic goals so that they can reach them
- Acting with decided actions without letting others choose
- Provide a positive outlook for yourself, taking care of your needs and needs.
Resilience in children
Talking about resilience in children leads to a field of study that has long focused on trauma. Resilience has been studied to understand how children who had faced the same difficult situation (perhaps a particularly serious episode such as war or a natural disaster) had come out completely differently: from those who came out strongly disturbed to those who did teaching and strength.
Resilience, however, is a quality that helps us daily, but is a way of tackling the reality that is useful to cope with the stress that the child can experience in his daily life and that he will then carry with him an adult.
As a great one, we forget the importance of certain challenges at a young age, but also children can feel under pressure: school entrance, new friends, conflicts with friends, success in school and extracurricular activities, confrontation with the other’s performance and the desire to please their parents.
The American Psychological Association has drawn up a series of 10 tips that can be useful to parents, which consist of creating a lifestyle-style resilience.
- Create bonds, encourage the child to create bonds, and develop empathy for others instead of competing.
- Helping the child to have an attitude of help, the child who feels alone can understand how to seek help, offering himself support for others.
- Daily routine, a routine helps you feel master of time and activities
- Take a break, in a routine, taking a break is a way to avoid being always too concerned that things go in the right direction. Everyone needs to take some free time.
- Teaching to take care of themselves, children must learn the commitments, but also relaxation and free time to self-serve.
- Thinking of goals, it is useful to establish stages that are appropriate to age and personal abilities.
- To nurture a positive outlook, to emphasize how you have managed to overcome the obstacles and challenges to help you not fall apart in the future.
- Offering a perspective, children are still unable to frame behaviors and events in a long-term perspective.
- Self-knowledge, in small adversity, children discover a lot about themselves, can help them understand how they have changed.
- Accepting change as part of life, frightening changes, it is necessary to help children see them as an opportunity to grow and experience something new.