NO is a wonderful word, but at times we struggle to do ours. When someone makes a request, our immediate response is usually YES. Driven by the desire to give help, or the will to not disappoint others, we offer you instantly without hesitation. Yet, knowing the right way of saying NO is undoubtedly a step of personal evolution. There is a good reason why (No) is one of the first words we learn to pronounce since childhood. In fact, children pass through a negation phase where they say no to everything, at first and without going too far into details. In this way they reaffirm their identity. In this regard, discovering the existence of no and its implications is a great event for the child because he realizes that he has the right to decide on his life, even though initially it is only small decisions.
Learning to say no is important also to keep our emotional balance
Life constantly opens new possibilities that we can grasp, try with opportunities, which sometimes are not the most suitable to us. In these cases, saying no means to be able to stay on the path we chose, focusing on our goals. Sometimes to say no, it is the only way we have to defend our rights and keep track of people who are willing to violate our freedom, adopting our time and acting as real emotional vampires. Even in a professional context, it is crucial to know how to handle the art of denial
Especially not to be overburdened with tasks that do not belong to us, and not to make commitments that we can not complete. Of course, we must learn to say no, respecting others, and maintaining good relations.
The categorical NO
Sometimes meetings with people who propose projects or make requests for which you know the answer: an absolute and categorical no. When you have made a very clear decision and you know that what you are proposing is not for you, because it can hurt you or go against your values, you do not have to be afraid to answer with a no categorical. It is true that saying no is complicated. In fact, sometimes saying no is an expression of self-love, self-respect.
Establishing limits is not negative, it is the expression of a person who knows what he wants. A N o instead of a useless hesitation is also a respect for the other person because it will save you time allowing you to redirect the search quickly. If we are not prepared to do something, it is better to say it right away.
NO in half
It’s not always necessary to say no, but sometimes we are not willing to do all that the other person asks for. In fact, these situations are very common in our daily lives, and since we tend to give up, we are chiefly responsible for the fact that we are involved in projects or relationships that really do not satisfy us.
In that case, you can say No in half. That is, you can tell this person that you are willing to help in some aspects, that you can only satisfy it to a certain extent, but you are not willing to go any further.
You can take advantage of this time to indicate exactly what your limits and conditions are. The other person must be clear about your position with respect to your request so that you do not claim what you have not compromised to do.
NO, maybe later
If you do not care, it’s better to say it right away. In this way you are sincere and respect the other person. But there are moments when we are not just willing to accept a certain proposal, at least at that time, but we could do it later.
In this case, it is better not to be convinced, making it clear that we are not available at the moment, but maybe later we might agree to involve you in the project or to meet the request. It is to make it clear that we are not interested in this.
For example, a person might give a very interesting professional project, but your current problems prevent you from accepting it. In that case, the proposal really interests you, but you can not compromise immediately. The ideal for both parties would agree a reasonable period of time, after which give your final answer.