Anger is a feeling that emanates the soul throughout the day. But it is above all during our reflections that it subjugates the mind by representing them the face of those who have saddened us. When it is persistent it turns into resentment and assails us like an impetuous wind, emerging as a sudden boil from our intimate and flaring up like a fire that devours us, targeting others. It is also par excellence, the visible vice, so as to disfigure those who are prey to it, also producing psychosomatic effects: it makes you lose your breath and generates a feeling of suffocation.
It is significant that anger is a reaction we share with animals, which manifest it especially when they feel attacked; well, if we are not able to dominate this instinctive, right or wrong movement, it risks turning into a permanent feeling and the memory of a never forgiven offense, with harmful consequences for all our relationships.
It should also be noted that there is also a positive anger, necessary for human life and the development of personality; it is a kind of zeal, of positive impetus that is even necessary to manifest in the face of evil, injustice, the suffering of the victims: it is anger for love, that is caused by love, which must be aroused by justice, have a right intention and manifest through a proportionate reaction, not having to be unjust, vindictive and disproportionate.
The drive of anger is certainly bad when it becomes a constant presence in our relationships with others; when it is the sign of contempt and hatred nurtured towards the other as such; when it contains the intention of annihilation and destruction of the other. In this case, anger is the denial of relationship and responsibility; it is the contradiction, par excellence, to communication and dialogue, as well as the ground on which aggression is born and violence is developed against the other.
As far as the fight against this passion is concerned, it should be noted that constantly giving in to anger is the sign of a poorly human life, not sufficiently marked by rest and silence. Today, in the frantic pace of contemporary life, it has become one of the dominant causes of individuals.
So an elementary tool to fight anger is the ability to experience silence and solitude in a profound and intelligent way, allowing them to become space to appease our inner ghosts; loneliness and silence are absolutely necessary to fight against the compulsions of the false self that always threatened by the possibility of failure and non-affirmation on others, is open to anger.
Only those who live in silence for a long time will also be able to extinguish the anger that is in him; taking distance from what you do, from the environment in which you live, are an opportunity to find yourself and silence the anger that tends to become a hidden and constant presence. More in depth, however, to defeat it requires the ability to ask a simple, but decisive question: who is the other for me? Is he a person to be in a relationship with, or is he something else?
Concretely then it is a question of reaching behaviors marked by gentleness and mildness; to love, to practice meekness, for us at least involves the need to set a limit to the anger that assails us, so as to avoid reaching words or acts that can hurt those around us, trying to prevent anger from penetrating until to the heart. We must have that capacity for patience to feel great, which means, to live with the imperfection and inadequacy present in man and in reality; patience which also means supporting, that is, supporting and supporting others in their weaknesses that sooner or later are also ours.
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